Coleman's team had a game on Tuesday. He plays U-11 lacrosse, which means that all of the players are nine and ten. It was a rough game but our boys won 5-3. When the boys came off of the field after the end-of-game handshakes and huddled for the post game meeting, it was obvious that several of them were upset. After everyone dispersed, I found out why.
Apparently, one of the kids on the other team was using some extremely foul language throughout the game. This same kid was also penalized for a very dangerous and illegal hit during the game. Coleman told me that at the end of the game, when the players go down the line and shake hands with each other, this kid said to him, "Nice game, motherf****." And even WORSE, this kid had used the N word to our African American player throughout the game.
THIS KID IS TEN YEARS OLD. Needless to say, a complaint was made and the league, director and kid's parent all handled the situation in a very appropriate way. But the thing I can't get past, is that the kid is only ten years old.
Also this week, two boys in Coleman's class got ISS (in school suspension) for urinating on the fence during PE. Neither boy was remorseful and neither boy got in trouble at home. AGAIN, THESE BOYS ARE NINE YEARS OLD.
What are we teaching (or not teaching) our boys? Don't get me wrong-my kids are no where NEAR perfect. Nor am I a perfect parent. I know that sometimes I live in my own little bubble, but how can these things be happening at such a young age?